The person you marry should definitely be a kindred spirit,” advises Shamanic teacher and spiritual healer Dr. Jonathan Dubois. “A spouse is more than just a lover and co-parent. They are a companion, friend and fellow traveler. Marriage means not only cohabiting, but looking out for the emotional and spiritual interests of each other. It helps lighten the load significantly if the other person shares interests, sensibilities, values and is aligned in values.